Words of consent are very important. And we all know “no” means “no”, but so can many other words. There is more than one way to say no and that’s important to remember when gaining consent from someone. Like she says, consent is important and consent is non-negotiable. Here is a helpful list to keep in mind of other phrases that mean “no”:
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Teaching girls, but ESPECIALLY boys early on that one’s body and personal space are non-negotiable, (and that goes for everyone, not just them), is a big part of the key. And boys should also know they TOO have the right to say “no”. Consent isn’t just for girls. Boys should be allowed to say “no” to advances and/or hugs from overly affectionate girls, aunties, grandmas, and creepy uncles. Not to mention priests, (really clergymen of any cloth), politicians, teachers, and even shopping mall Santas. And yes, even Mom & Dad, if they don’t feel like it.
And more importantly, also explain to them *why* in a way they can understand. It’s one thing to tell them they have autonomy over their own bodies, but knowing why is how they can internalize it. Set the example. Show them through your actions that you mean what you said. They are always watching you, learning from you and will mimic your behavior. And they will see if you are a hypocrite if you ignore your own advice to them. Be the example you want them to emulate.