LOL! This is a great rebuttal to all the men complaining about being put in the “friendzone” by women. If you can’t tell this is a quite sarcastic parody of the way dudes complain women wanting to be friends, this flips the stereotype on it’s head in the girlfriend-zone:
Source: literaryreference
(via: Cheezburger)
that was the stupidest thing i’ve read today. the Highlighted part that was supposed to be the satire against men in the “Friend-Zone”‘s comments was actually true. Men are wired to be friends with other men and work together to accomplish missions. thery are also wired to find a mate within the women crowd. if you guys have that much in common, maybe try a relationship. if it doesn’t work out, break up but remain friends. boom, solved.
You realize that most of the time being friends with guys you’ve had a relationship never works out, right? Especially when you get a new partner who is like “you slept with them? they’ve seen you naked?”
If you say so… My girlfriend used to be (well, still is) one of my best friend for around 6 years before we started dating. My best buddy dated another one of my best friends and didn’t work, but they are still super best friends. Idk, this girl maybe need to understand that is uncomfortable for some people to keep a friendship with someone you want lo love as a partner. Trying to force them to stay throug shame is ridiculous. The wound may never heal. Sorry, if is sad and you had to go alone to Hunger Games, but the world does not revolve around you.
You WANT that in your new partner? That’s… weird as a thing you’d accept.
You’ve missed the entire point. She doesn’t want to date them. She doesn’t want to be viewed as a potential sex partner. She wants to be viewed as a human and valued for herself, not the organ between her legs.
I don’t know if you were answering me, but anyway: People don’t live in your head. It does not matter if you want just friendship, the only way of finding out for the rest of the world is asking. If they ask you and you say you only want friendship, is the right of the other person to decide if they are ok with that, as it was your right to decide not having a relationship with them. And that’s it. You are not entitled to nobody’s friendship. As they are not entitled to your love. End.
She may not be untitled to anyone’s friendship, but it’s still pretty messed up to pretend to be someone’s friend in hope it will materialize into something more. This isn’t some guy she just met. This is someone she spent lots of time with. If he really only wanted to date her, shouldn’t he have been honest from the beginning? Maybe he would have been outright rejected, but at least they didn’t have any shared history, yet. Rather, it appears he only pretended to be her friend to get something, and when he didn’t get it, he rejected her. That seems messed up.
Men are ‘wired to be friends with other men’ because that’s the cultural influence they’ve had for ages. They’re taught, and they LEARN that. And even then, they’re also taught and learn to compete against other men and to mock and ridicule those who do not behave like them, who are different. Upbringing, societal, cultural and peer pressure, not biological, dude.
There is literally nothing in your biology to stop you from being a friend to a woman, or seeing a woman as a fellow human being, except what you’ve absorbed into your psyche growing up. So the satire really, really works, especially with the growth of incels and incel subculture and the general sense of entitlement that many men seem to suck up like sponges: Women owe us sex if we’re nice to them, I mean, what the…? No. We. Don’t. We don’t owe you anything.
The corollary to you not owing us anything is we don’t owe you anything either. Including another second of our time if we don’t get what we want. Therefore go your way, and I will go mine, and they will not cross paths again.
If you want to be friends with a guy, approach them like a guy. I’ve known my best male friend since 2006. What’s his favorite color? No idea. Does he read? Probably. When guys hang they don’t want to play “get to know you” games or 20-questions. Guy friends bond by sharing interests and activities. Only the very best guy friends provide emotional support (this part is a bit sad, but true).
Ppl like to point fingers outside themself, and blame others. There are a lot of shy ppl around, who suffer from lacking self-confidence, but hide it the best they can. The key is communication of emotions, what most men lack, as we have a thing called emotional color blindness. It differ in each individual how it’s extent. Society don’t raise men, in the way, to learn about how to handle emotions aside from anger.
Also managing risks, be it small or big, is part of the life of men, and it has deep roots.
Taking small risks and building up experience in handling them, is how men gain confidence in themself.
So what really happening, in his case:
You get to know a guy. At some point, or from the get go, he start to have feelings for you. The moment he realize these feelings, he should tell you, like: “You see…, i start to have feelings for you. Say something, how do you feel about it?” If you say no, he can ask for like a few weeks to get it together in himself, and consider if he’s interested in having you as a friend, or not.
As i said above this is what SHOULD happen. However, what really is happening, is that, he had these feelings, but didn’t tell you this. Nobody ever told him, how to handle his feelings. Spending time with you, and getting to know you better and better, this feeling in him, get deeper and deeper. Also, he probably don’t have confidence in taking risks. Based on all the time he spent with you, getting to know you consider his his feelings, and geather his confidence, after X time spent together, he’ll confess you.
So in your case, what you can do about it. You must know, that the average men, get really tiny attention, or non from society. So even if you show kindness to a man, could be read by him, that you are interested in him. So you either be transparent about your boundaries, or you need to tell your purpose of approach, or there is a big chance this pattern will repeat itself.