Every time a woman posts something about men committing domestic abuse or rape, etc. a random man shows up in the comments to proclaim “Not all men”! It’s in no way necessary to add since no one thinks it’s all men. It only derails the conversation and makes it about you. That doesn’t help anyone. Lily O’Farrell of @VulgaDrawings drew this comic which goes into more detail. Hopefully this will simplify it for people who still don’t get it. Here’s what Lily had to say about the comic:
“I’ve seen so many women share their thoughts and experiences about walking alone at night, and lots of #notallmen arguments in response.
I love this explanation and the tick analogy, I saw it in a video by @kristinamaione and they really kindly let me turn it into a kind of cartoon/visual description. Kristina is incredible and has a great Y0utube channel I’d recommend.”
Artist: Lily O’Farrell of @VulgaDrawings
Words by: @KristinaMaione
Fear is a choice.
Choose wisely.
Wow, no, so utterly wrong. Fear is a *response* to perceived threats. Whether something is actually a threat or not, we don’t always have the luxury of taking time to explore and find out if we are actually safe and if our fears were unwarranted. The choices we have are how we respond to our fears and the actions we do or don’t take when we can think cognitively and not just respond reflexively.
Insisting that others need to EARN my trust instead of my just giving to them IS the wise choice.
Fair point, similar infographic should be made for minorities
There is a comment to be made here that is often ignored in this conversation.
While it is accurate that 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted (and the number is likely higher) what gets missed in a lot of this is WHO does the sexual assaulting.
for example, the logic as it is currently expressed tends to follow the belief that if 1 in 3 women are sexually assaulted, then 1 in 3 men are doing the assaults. This in and of itself is incorrect as most of those who do sexually assault women, do not limit themselves to just one woman, in reality they assault multiple women and depending on the number of those cases that are reported, it could actually end up fairly high by the time anything is done.
A closer reality is likely closer to 10% or less of men who commit sexual assaults, probably less.
However, and this is the major factor that gets ignored, the vast majority of women who get sexually assaulted are assaulted by a person they know.
Stranger sexual assaults are rare according to all data. However, almost all attempts to educate women to protect themselves from sexual assaults are predicated on protecting the woman from the stranger on the street and not from a person they know.
All current education around sexual assaults are focused on the wrong areas and more importantly are actually making women not trust people that are least likely to become their assaulter.